Wednesday, November 06, 2013

Jarring Words

By Colleen O’Sullivan
Brothers and sisters:  Owe nothing to anyone, except to love one another; for the one who loves another has fulfilled the law.  (Romans 13:8)
Great crowds were traveling with Jesus, and he turned and addressed them, “If anyone comes to me without hating his father and mother, wife and children, brothers and sisters, and even his own life, he cannot be my disciple.  Whoever does not carry his own cross and come after me cannot be my disciple.”  (Luke 14: 15-27)

Piety
Lord, grant that I may see thee more clearly,
love thee more dearly,
follow thee more nearly.
(Spiritual Exercises 104, from Hearts on Fire: Praying with Jesuits, p. 63)

Study
Family matters to us.  I couldn’t begin to count the number of times growing up that my mother told my siblings and me “blood is thicker than water.”  The Spanish have a proverb that says “An ounce of blood is worth more than a pound of friendship.”  My Mormon friend assures me that family is forever.

Family was probably even more important in Jesus’ day.  People didn’t “leave home” and scatter to the four winds as we do today.  A person’s multi-generational, extended family, from parents to distant cousins, generally spent all their lives together in one village or small geographical area.  A father’s occupation dictated what his sons would do for a living.  Your family lineage determined what religious sect you were a part of.  Family was everything.

So, Jesus’ words are shocking.  Unless we hate all these beloved family members, and even ourselves, he says we can’t be his disciples!   Maybe in our society today, where our self-esteem and self-importance are so carefully polished and nurtured, the part about hating ourselves is the more jarring note.

Jesus wants to shake us up!  Does he literally mean we should hate our families and ourselves?  No.  As Paul writes to the Romans, loving one another is the fulfillment of the law.  The Lord is simply trying to get our attention.  Whatever we hold sacred in this world – our families, ourselves, our careers, our accumulated possessions, our prestige – all of that has to take a back seat to our love for Jesus Christ.  If he isn’t our greatest love, we’ll never make it to the end of the journey with him.  We’ll fall along the roadside at some point, exhausted and depleted, for the Way isn’t an easy path.  There was no shortcut to the Resurrection for Jesus.  He had to go by way of the Cross.  He’s trying to warn us that there are no shortcuts to eternal life for us, either.  Should we choose to follow him, we will face our own crosses.  Jesus hopes we will undertake the journey and he promises to accompany us every step of the way, but he wants us to do it with our eyes wide open.

Action
One of my friends enrolled her 4-year-old in a church-sponsored pre-school.  She picked him up at lunchtime one day and they went to the grocery store on the way home.  To her amazement, he cheerfully greeted every shopper they happened upon with the words, “Jesus loves you!”  Before they got to the check-out counter, he declared, “I love Jesus more than I love you, Mommy!” 

The Lord says that we have to become like little children in order to enter the Kingdom.  Can you echo this little boy’s words and say, “Jesus, I love you more than anything or anyone else in the world?”  If not, what is it that pulls you away, and what would it take for Jesus to come first in your life?

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