Thursday, October 10, 2019

“Mercy and Compassion, not Snakes” by Beth DeCristofaro


“Mercy and Compassion, not Snakes” by Beth DeCristofaro


And I will have compassion on them, as a man has compassion on his son who serves him. Then you will again see the distinction between the just and the wicked; Between the one who serves God and the one who does not serve him. (Malachi 3:17-18)

What father among you would hand his son a snake when he asks for a fish? Or hand him a scorpion when he asks for an egg? If you then, who are wicked, know how to give good gifts to your children, how much more will the Father in heaven give the Holy Spirit to those who ask him? (Luke 11:11-13)

Piety
Almighty ever-living God, who in the abundance of your kindness surpass the merits and desires of those who entreat you, pour out your mercy upon us to pardon what conscience dreads and to give what prayer does not dare to ask. Through our Lord Jesus Christ, you Son, who lives and reigns with you in the unity of the Holy Spirit, one God, forever and ever.[i]  

Study
Who among us hasn’t “handed our son a snake when he asked for a fish”…metaphorically speaking? My daughter pulled a stupid stunt with friends, and I grounded her without listening to her side of the story. A third-party incident was related to me, and I immediately took offense and passed on gossip about a person who thought I was her friend. I yelled at my mother in frustration and impatience. If I am willing to face my truth, no wonder I have difficulty completely believing that God is ready – even in my those moments – to open the door to me if I but knock. I can’t always open my door of compassion for those I love the most. And, of course, life often hands scorpions to us as well. Are those scorpions deserved, we wonder? No wonder we aren’t confident that we deserve God’s door to open for us.

Jesus assures us that he is with God, and stands with us as our brother in our weakness should we rely on him. He offers us the chance again and again to knock. He revealed to his disciples that God was with them in his person and will be with them and us in the Spirit. We knock, and God answers, “surpassing our merits and our desires.”

This passage reminds me of Fr. Thomas Keating’s gentle explanation as I was beginning to practice centering prayer. When our active and distracted brain attends away from God’s presence, I can take it as an opportunity to focus again on God. Instead of chastising myself for not paying attention, I can be grateful to seek God’s face again. I can offer the distraction for God’s glory. If I can stop my self-centeredness and focus on Jesus’ way of loving my neighbor, then it is another chance to stand with Jesus and knock on God’s door despite myself. It takes, among other things, faith, trust, humility, forgiveness, courage, “yes” and accepting grace. That’s all — a tall order for anyone but God. And God will have compassion on me.

Action
Taking stock, as in the Examen, of the moments that I handed a snake to someone rather than a requested fish, gives me the opening to pray for God’s mercy. I also implore God to enlighten me the next time I have barred my door of compassion. Is there the need to ask forgiveness of my brother or sister? Knock and seek it.



[i] From the Collect, Mass for the day.


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